In the long run...

In the long run, it's not a question of whether they deserve to be forgiven. You're not forgiving them for their sake. You're doing it for yourself. For your own health and well-being, forgiveness is simply the most energy-efficient option. It frees you from the incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. Don't let these people live rent free in your head. If they hurt you before, why let them keep doing it year after year in your mind? It's not worth it but it takes heart effort to stop it. You can muster that heart power to forgive them as a way of looking out for yourself. It's one thing you can be totally selfish about.

Take it slowly. The deepest resentments are wrapped up in a lot of hurt and pain. We think we're protecting ourselves by not forgiving. Acknowledge that and go easy on yourself. Forgiveness means that you've decided not to let it keep festering inside even if it only comes up once in awhile. Forgiveness is a powerful yet challenging tool that will support and honor you, even in the most extreme circumstances.

Sincere forgiveness isn't colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don't worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time—just like it does for you and me.

May you find serenity and tranquility in a world you may not always understand. May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you the strength to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism. Always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there, even when you feel most alone. May you discover enough goodness in others to believe in a world of peace. May a kind word, a reassuring touch, and a warm smile be yours every day of your life, and may you give these gifts as well as receive them. Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending. Teach love to those who hate, and let that love embrace you as you go out into the world. May the teachings of those you admire become part of you, so that you may call upon them. Remember, those whose lives you have touched and whose have touched yours are always a part of you, even if the encounters were less than you would have wished. It is the content of the encounter that is more important than the form. May you not become too concerned with material matters, but instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart. Find time each day to see beauty and love in the world around you. Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way. What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strengths in the future. May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility. Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience. May you find enough inner strength to determine your own worth by yourself, and not be dependent on another's judgment of your accomplishments. May you always feel loved.

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him.

New To Blogspot

Hi everyone!

So here I am...I never had a blogspot before. I had a livejournal - but not too fond of it. Of course...I have a myspace (along with everyone else in the world) but wanted somewhere that I could just vent and write...happy or sad.

The downlow on myself - I'm a 26 year old single lady, who enjoys being with my family & friends more than anything. Oh - my pets too. I have a American Bulldog mix named Seven, and two cats - Chiquita & Pita (Pain in the Ass).

I bought a house in October of 2006 - it is a tiny little place...but hey I love it! It is MINE! I recently had some tile work done to it - Thanks Matt! I look forward to doing a few more upgrades on the inside and working in the yard this summer! I love the outdoors - camping, hiking, snowboard, snowmaching...you name I've been there done that...and loved every minute of it! I have a group of friends that I would do anything in the world for...and they know who they are. I don't get along with very many other girls...so the girlfriends that I do have I hold very close to my heart. Growing up in a small town - I had mostly guy friends...one of which I lost in a tragic airplane accident 2 years ago (RIP Fritz) not a day goes by that I don't think about him. But I always know that until I get to see him again...he walks with me.

Well I probably should get back to getting something done around here...tee-hee...Look forward to many blogs from me...and hopefully I will keep in touch with those whom don't have myspace :)

Mucho Love!

B